My mother always told me, “You get more flies with honey.” I never understood it when I was young, because she would always say it when I was “misbehaving.” But soon, I understood what she meant and did one act of kindness in particular that was the best thing I’d ever done in my life. She was trying to tell me, in simple terms, do everything with kindness. Be sweet with your words and actions, and like honey, you attract more kindness.
Here’s how it started, my act of kindness. One day when I was about sixteen, and while at a family gathering, I noticed a little five year old girl running around getting on everyone’s nerves, except mine. Her black, curly hair in braids and twirling around with her as she played uncontrollably. I asked my mom, “Why does nobody like her?” She replied, “It’s not that, it’s because she misbehaves and has no self-control.”
Self-control? I thought. What five year old has self control? Anyway, I took her outside and began playing with her. All eyes were on me, as if I had no idea what I was getting myself into. When she giggled uncontrollably at having someone to give her attention, I let her run in the grass. Of course, she did not have self-control, I soon learned, but there was something about her that I just fell in love with. That same day, after we went home, my mom got a phone call from the little girl’s mother asking if we would like to babysit her. To my surprise, my family said, “No.”
It’s a good thing I overheard my mom, because I called out, “I’ll watch her!” and my mom said, “Okay, Heather will watch her.” So, she came over and ran like a crazy five year old with no self-control. After that, I soon learned how much she and her mother needed me in their lives. Everyone goes through things, and it’s better to have someone, just one person, to care. This was my lesson to my mom.
Katrina, the sweetest little girl in my world, who will always remain that cute little five year old, soon came to live with my family while her mom got back on her feet. I was still in high school, and my mother worked from six in the morning until six at night, having no time to take care of a five year old. But once she saw what I saw, and my whole family saw it too, they all pitched in. We didn’t have a lot of things for her at first, so she slept with me for a while, and even after we got her a bed, she would still sleep with me. There was already three of us girls living together, so it was kind of perfect for a little five year old to have three other girls to look up to. Since I was the oldest and had my drivers license, I took Katrina to Kindergarten every day. I would get up early, feed her, and get her to school, then get myself to school. My sisters helped out, too. Kindness really is like honey. It’s sweet, and can attract more things.
For a year, she lived with us. It was the best year of my life. It was like having a cute little sister around all the time. Everyone was soon falling in love with her. She loves doing puzzles, coloring, playing with cars, playing in the snow, finding Easter eggs, SHE LOVES CHOCOLATE, and she has the best personality. She learned many essential things that year that I’m proud to say I helped her and her mother with. I taught her, and she taught me. I’m also proud to say that she was able to move back with her mother and now lives with her permanently. Those kinds of stories melt my heart. When people are in need and one person cares enough, it can make all the difference in their world. This one act of kindness not only changed my life and my heart, but also my family’s as they love her just as much as I do. And that’s all it takes to “get more flies with honey.”